There is a stigma attached to discussing your grief or painful experiences with a therapist, counselor, or with friends and family not in your innermost circle of confidence. This is especially true for men, who often are hesitant to seek outside help for fear of being labeled or seen as weak. Frankly, we need to make changes to a culture that tells people that suppressing your hurt and pain is a strength. There are unintended consequences to keeping those pent up feelings to yourself.
I talked about this subject today in a presentation I made before my book signing at the Fairhope Unitarian Fellowship. I shared my 10-year grief journey and a few of the stories – positive and negative – that were part of that process. I’ve gradually healed during the last decade, but starting to write the book a few years ago allowed me to pen precisely how I was feeling and specifically what I was going through that made my experience challenging.Hope. We all need it, particularly in a time of personal crisis.
There are no perfect remedies for grief or other personal challenges one might go through. And time is just part of the equation. Contrary to the old saying, time doesn’t heal all wounds. There is an active part in the process you must personally undertake. Surrounding yourself with the right people in your life is critical; a support system of influence that is grounded in the reality of what you face but that also helps you see the more optimistic path to travel than the one in your grieving mind.